SUCCESS SPLIT US UP
Category: P.S. I Love You News | Posted by: admin
Article Date: April 6, 2007 | Publication: Daily Record | Author: John Dingwall
EXCLUSIVE HILARY SWANK SAYS FAME RUINED HER MARRIAGE..BUT NOW SHE'S LOVING LIFE AGAIN THE BIG RAZZ INTERVIEW
DOUBLE Oscar winner Hilary Swank has revealed how her fabulous film career killed off her chances of a successful marriage.
She divorced Chad Lowe, who stars as creepy Reed Pollock in the latest series of 24, blaming his jealousy of her success for the split.
The actress, who picked up the coveted Academy awards for Boys Don't Cry and Million Dollar Baby, says she threw herself into her work to get over the break-up and the heartache it brought.
"I really feel like I am in a good place now. Luckily, I have a great support system around me for the tough times, but I also love my job and have been working non-stop," she admitted.
Her latest film role is a Christian missionary who has lost her faith in the supernatural thriller The Reaping, which she accepted just hours before collecting her second Oscar.
Her character specialises in debunking religious phenomena and goes to investigate a small town which seems to be suffering from the 10 Biblical plagues.
In fact, Hilary has just made four films back to back - The Reaping, The Black Dahlia, Freedom Writers and PS, I Love You.
It's a gruelling schedule but she feels all this hard work keeps her focused and grounded.
"I feel like I am in a place where I get to wake up and say: 'Hey, I get to go do what I love today and everything else is great'," she said.
"I was single for a while, but I'm in a relationship now.
"Actually, it's been all good and I'm doing great."
Blaming her life in Hollywood for the break-up, she added: "I think it takes a really, really secure and grounded man or woman to allow your partner to achieve success and be empowered.
"I just think it's rare to find that person who isn't threatened by it or doesn't feel less because of it.
"When they are threatened by it, that just kills a part of you.
"It kills you because this person, who is supposed to be in your life, sharing your life, who supposedly loves you more than anyone and is supposed to understand you more than anyone, is trying to hold you down when you already have enough of that in the world.
"You already have people saying: 'You can't do that. You're not going to be able to do that.'
"That just kills you. It kills a little piece of you, and that's a real and really sad thing.
"I think it's unfortunate when people who are scared don't allow someone else to be fully realised. It's tough. I think that a real challenge in life is finding the balance of living for yourself, but also making time for relationships, whatever they may be.
"I speak to my mom a few times a month and she understands, but that's sad.
"Someday, I don't want my mom to pass away or for me to pass away and for me to say: 'I didn't spend as much time with my mom as I wanted, my best friend or whoever in my life that's important to me.'
"It's really hard to find that balance, but it's also really hard not to give up your whole self to make someone else's life complete."
Hilary revealed many of her friends had stopped seeing her because they felt inadequate.
"I've had friends in my life who, as I get more successful, weren't a part of my life anymore because it made them feel inadequate," she said.
"It's hard to find those people who really say: 'I'm so proud of you. I want you to have all the success that happens in your life, and it doesn't make me feel like a lesser person because of it.'
"It's something that I don't understand. I feel like everyone has their calling in life, and I think that everyone should try and follow it and be as great as they can be and support one another.
"Not everyone can be that way. So, friendships fall apart. Siblings have rivalries. We have wars. I mean, it's just the human condition. I'm just really lucky that I have dear friends in my life who say: 'I hope that you get everything that you want. I'm really happy when you get success.' And, they really mean it. But, sadly, they are few and far between."
Filming on The Reaping was delayed when Hurricane Katrina hit the gulf coast, wreaking havoc on Louisiana and leaving many of the film crew without homes.
"It was a horrible event," Hilary recalled. "The great thing about the way the studio handled it was that instead of closing down, moving and filming somewhere else, they said: 'Let's just let some time go by, go back and make sure that we keep people employed.'
"A lot of people in the cast and crew were from New Orleans. So, about 10 days later, we were back filming in the swamps."
She agreed to the part on the same weekend she collected her second Oscar, for her role as a female boxer Maggie Fitzgerald in Clint Eastwood's Million Dollar Baby, based on the short stories of F.X. O'Toole and scripted by Crash screenwriter Paul Haggis.
Hilary put on 19lb of muscle for the role, having spent five months at Gleason's Gym in Brooklyn where boxing greats such as Jake La Motta, Roberto Duran and Muhammad Ali trained.
And her latest part may seem a surprising choice for someone who has also played a man trapped in a woman's body, a prostitute and a nymphomaniac.
In Freedom Writers, she stars as a teacher faced with a classroom of gang members and difficult teens. It's based on the true story of Erin Gruwell, who taught at the notorious Woodrow Wilson High School in California.
If Swank's roles have been predominantly blue collar, she certainly experienced the real thing before finding fame on the big screen.
Her mother left Washington State for Los Angeles with just EUR75 in her purse so that Hilary could pursue her dream of an acting career.
They lived in their car before moving to an empty house owned by friends where they slept on inflatable mattresses and had to move out during the day so that potential buyers could view the property.
Her big break came, following a number of forgettable TV parts, when she was sacked from a regular spot on teen drama Beverly Hills 90210.
It opened the door for Hilary to take the lead role of Brandon Teena, a girl who lived her life as a boy, in the 1999 film Boys Don't Cry.
The low-budget role earned her first Oscar and she has never looked back in the intervening eight years.
Her other new film is the rom-com PS, I Love You with the leading man of 300, Scots actor Gerard Butler.
"Gerard's so great," she said. "He is so fantastic and funny. I'm so happy 300 has brought so much attention because he deserves it.
"He's such a great guy, a real professional, who loves his job and he shows up and gives 1000 per cent.
"We had a great, great time, and we're actually looking to do other movies together.
"That's how great it was working with him.'
And after all that, it's time, at last, for Hilary to take a well-earned break.
"I did four movies back to back so I'm ready to take some time off and take that rest.
"I need it."
'When they are threatened by your success, that kills a part of you'